• The new Discovery+ series “Good Sex” has couples setting up cameras in their bedrooms. A sex coach uses the images to help improve their intimacy.
  • In the first episode, the men reveal their sexual issues, such as erectile dysfunction and general inexperience.
  • The show is a reminder that sex should be a safe space to explore desire and pleasure.

In the new “Good Sex” TV series, couples happily set up video cameras in their bedrooms while they have sex, then forward the tapes to a sex coach for help.

Caitlin V. Neal, the show’s resident sex coach, has spent over 10 years helping men with erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, and pleasuring women.

Minutes into the first episode, a 48-year-old man named Ben admits he has trouble getting out of his head during sex with his partner Annie, which has led to erectile dysfunction. When Neal later reviews video footage of their lovemaking, she discovers that Annie’s dog is in the room while they do so, interfering with Ben’s ability to concentrate. In the same episode, a man in his twenties reveals he’s never had sex and wants to learn how to please a woman before him, so Neal walks him through different pleasure points while stroking a model. anatomy of female genitalia.

As a reporter and Insider’s sex and relationship advice columnist, I constantly read questions from women who want to save their sex and love lives. So it was refreshing to see men speak candidly about their sexual concerns, like when Ben said a disconnect between his brain and his body was probably the reason for his “loose dick.”

For me, “Good Sex” is a reminder that sex can be embarrassing and fulfilling at the same time. Much like the willingness to ask for help, a good sexual relationship requires self-awareness, self-love, and a sense of security enough to show you’re still understanding.

“Good Sex” takes a raw approach by showing couples in the midst of their sexual mistakes, not just how they solve them.

A 48-year-old man named Ben spoke about having difficulty reaching orgasm during sex

Ben said he’s only been with three women in his life, including his current partner of two years, Annie. They said they were both previously married to their college sweethearts.

“As great as our gender is, I can’t stay hard, or even get hard, sometimes,” Ben told the camera during the first episode. He said current erectile dysfunction issues made sex daunting and distressing, especially from a previous marriage where he didn’t have much sex.

During their first session with Neal, Ben said that erectile dysfunction drugs hadn’t helped and that he wanted to orgasm during sex with Annie.

According to Neal, the pursuit of good sex challenges people, especially men, to be more emotionally open.

“Sex is an inherently vulnerable act. And so if you’re looking to improve your sex life and you’re serious about your commitment to improving your intimacy, vulnerability is a requirement to get the results they want,” Neal said. .

According to Neal, the showrunners’ idea of ​​using cameras with sex coaching allowed “exponentially faster transformations, growth and impact” because she could see what was really happening, not just hear it hazy memories. of the couple.

“Imagine trying to explain, step by step, what happened the last time you had sex with your partner. Especially if you have nothing to compare, it’s really hard for someone to compare. ‘articulate what really happened’, Neal, who also has a YouTube channel dedicated to sex advice, told Insider.

Sex and healthy relationships take work

The show features clips from each couple’s sex coaching sessions and bedroom duties Neal assigns them, but there’s a lot more work between scenes, she told Insider.

Each coaching session lasts between 90 minutes and two hours. It also takes time for a couple to unlearn the sexual routines they’ve grown accustomed to over the past five to 30 years, Neal said.

When viewers watch “Good Sex,” Neal hopes they come away with the realization that a fulfilling sex life takes commitment and support.

“We have no problem hiring career coaches, mechanics, people to install things in our homes. But for some reason we have the history that sex is something we have to deal with in private. , without any help. By placing cameras inside those closed bedroom doors, we’re able to see that it’s not something you have to deal with in isolation. It’s not something that should be a source of shame,” Neal said.

A dedication to honesty and emotional openness in the name of self-improvement? Now it’s hot.