DEAR DEIDRE: I have tried so many different things but I am still struggling with erectile dysfunction. I’ve had it up to here.

I am 27 years old and I wrote to you six months ago about my problems.


I still only get hard half the time, and if I do, I very rarely manage to ejaculate

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You suggested I see my doctor, who examined me for any underlying health issues.

All my tests came out clear, but he recommended I lose some weight. So I quit smoking, cut down on my alcohol intake and started running.

My girlfriend and I also stopped having sex for a few months to see if that made a difference, but it didn’t.

I still only get hard half the time, and if I do, I very rarely manage to ejaculate.

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A friend has similar problems and uses Viagra. He says it’s great.

Could this work for me?

DEIDRE SAYS: Viagra can be a good solution for men with erectile dysfunction because it temporarily increases blood flow.

But you should consult your doctor before starting any new medication.

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Before trying this, consider talking to a sex therapist. Our sexual organs are very strongly linked to our brain, so they are sometimes affected by anxiety and nerves.

Check the COSRT website ( to find a therapist near you.