For something as ubiquitous as sex – almost everyone who reads this has come into the world because of it – there is a lot of secrecy surrounding it. Some myths surrounding this subject seem both timeless and persistent, despite the free availability of information on this subject.

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How not to get pregnant

For example, many people still believe that if a girl takes oral contraceptives (“the pill”), she and her partner will not get sexually transmitted infections (STIs). It’s wrong. The pill can protect against pregnancy, for the most part, but a condom is also necessary to prevent STIs.

Note that removing the male organ before ejaculation is not a sure-fire way to prevent pregnancy, nor STIs, which depend on the amount of skin-to-skin contact and not just contact with semen.

If one condom offers a high degree of protection against STIs and pregnancy, two should be better, right? Again, no, because two condoms are often more difficult to apply correctly, and the extra friction between them can actually cause the condom to break and increase the chances of an unwanted pregnancy.

And it’s not a good idea to store condoms in cars, wallets, etc. These devices are made of a material that decomposes when exposed to heat and friction. Suggested storage is in cool places, such as drawers in your bedroom.

Again, if a condom is worn incorrectly the first time and needs to be put back on for proper use, the original condom should be discarded, as the semen may very well have come in contact with the surface next to the skin, which is now on the outside, ready to come into contact with the vagina.

Also, showering or showering after sex does not prevent pregnancy. It is far better to use a contraceptive. Even with contraceptives such as the pill, protection does not kick in until about a week after taking the medicine. During this period, therefore, a condom should be used as a backup.

If a girl and a boy sit near, kiss, hug or even kiss with their clothes on, there will be no pregnancy, as it requires the sperm contained in the semen to reach the body. uterus to fertilize an egg in the opening fallopian tubes. organ.

Conversely, if the semen is ejaculated just outside the vagina and the vaginal area is wet, the sperm may travel back up into the vagina to cause pregnancy.

It doesn’t necessarily take more than one vaginal intercourse to get pregnant, and no sex position protects against pregnancy. For example, sex in a swimming pool or in a bath, or while standing, remains sexual intercourse, and as long as sperm are introduced into or very near the vagina, pregnancy can result and STIs can certainly be transmitted. .

Having sex during a menstrual period can also lead to pregnancy, but if a period occurs soon after intercourse, pregnancy is unlikely.

Transmission of STIs

Vaginal sex is not the only type of sexual activity that can cause STI transmission, so condoms should be used fresh with each new act of sex. In fact, the anal mucosa is singularly ill-suited to sexual acts, being thin and easily damaged, which explains the rapid entry of STI pathogens after anal sex.

The human immunodeficiency virus (HIV) was one of the most feared STIs until very recently. Yet, many people still believe that only gay men get this infection. The truth is that anyone can contract HIV through unprotected sexual contact with an HIV-positive partner unless pre-exposure prophylaxis is taken.

At the same time, HIV is known to be transmitted only through sexual fluids (semen and vaginal fluids), blood and breast milk, while urine, saliva and tears do not contain the virus. However, if the male organ comes in contact with cuts and nicks caused by shaving, for example, or infected hair follicles, HIV can be transmitted through blood or blood exudate to these sites.

Many also believe that it is always obvious to have an STI and therefore are willing to take risks such as having unprotected sex with an apparently healthy partner. The fact is, up to half of all sexually active young people have an STI at some point, and many may not develop symptoms. However, they can still transmit the infection. The only sure-fire way, or the sure way, to avoid getting and spreading an STI is to have an annual sexual health check-up to rule out the presence of such infections.

Since oral sex does not cause pregnancy, is it safe? The answer is that oral sex, like any other type of sex, can allow the transmission of STIs, although it certainly does not allow pregnancy.

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Useful sex education

Talking to children about sex in an understandable and sensitive way usually helps them understand the basics of how it works and the issues that can arise if they have sex without the proper setting. Additionally, many school-based holistic sex education programs also explain the value of abstinence as a measure to avoid having to deal with sex-related complications before the child is ready.

Knowing that abstinence is a valid and widely practiced option often relieves the pressure on children to have sex just to keep up with their peers. And being educated about sex helps them make their own choices, rather than rushing for thrills and trouble they can’t handle.

Young people should also know that the excitement of watching pornography is deceptive, because sex in real life is usually not like porn, and ordinary people don’t look like pornstars. Additionally, pornography is addictive and can keep people from feeling satisfied with their perfectly good sex lives.

There is a clear and unmet need for health care providers to respond to young people with honesty and kindness, to talk to them about the risks of having sex before entering a lifelong relationship, and to dispel ideas. falsehoods that continue to linger on sexual acts and contraception.

The references

  • (2020). Sexual health: myths versus truths.
  • (2020). Sexual health myths.
  • (2014). Common myths about sexual health education.
  • (2020). 10 mega myths about sex.

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